WHAT IS INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING?

Individual counseling takes place after you (someone like you) call my office to ask for an appointment for therapy. This can happen for a variety of reasons. Sometimes, primary healthcare physicians call to refer one of their patients for counseling. Other times, a current client will refer one of their friends. Still other times, you or someone like you is searching for something, answers, relief, a way out of whatever it is that's making you feel uncomfortable.

We arrange an appointment and you will be asked to fill out a questionnaire (standard like in any healthcare practitioner's office) and sign consent for therapy while you're in the reception area of my office.

HOW DOES INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING WORK?

One-on-one, we will meet behind closed doors and we'll review your answers to the questionnaire. There are no right or wrong answers, good or bad ones. They are your answers; the answers about you, which make you an individual, and which will help me to help you be successful in the achievement of your goals.

Often, when people find out what I do professionally, they ask me, "So what is it really like? Do I have to lie down on a couch? Are you going to psychoanalyze me? You must hear horror stories, right? I'd be so embarrassed to go talk to someone about my problems; they'd think I'm crazy!"

So, here's a very basic description of what happens when you're in therapy. There's talking, asking questions, sometimes laughter, sometimes tears, sometimes anger, sadness, frustration, the whole spectrum of feelings comes into play in an Individual counseling session. We'll talk about what your goals are, what you want to get out of coming into counseling, what brought you to the moment when you first contacted me, where you've been in your life and where you're going. I listen attentively and with empathy while you're talking, and sometimes in the silence too. Most people say coming in for a counseling session was the first time somebody ever really listened to them and that being heard feels great!

WHAT WILL WE DO IN OUR SESSION?

In Individual Counseling, an effective therapist is objective and has no moral judgment or personal agenda. It's different than talking to your best friend; you're speaking to a Professional who has been trained to listen to what you're saying verbally as well as non-verbally. I don't give directions or advice and rarely do I give opinions. I don't live "in your skin", you do. I believe that you, my client, is really the expert in your own life, and mostly, after talking for a while, you'll understand that concept and begin to incorporate it into your life. Therefore, you'll decide how many sessions you'll want to have with me and how long our therapeutic relationship will last.